But I`m recently training Lewis Deep Democracy at home, with more clarity. Community agreements or “safe rules” in the LDD-Lingo can be a profound means of building trust and security in conflict management. And they don`t need to be the first thing we do together (!). One of the coaches of deep democracy talked about how to be a choice to stop and ask groups to create their “safer rules” (what the group needs to feel safer and do their job well together) before they get into conflict or go further. It could be in the middle of the session, for example. If emotions are amplified and we ask people to name what they really need, it can help the group be more honest about what they need to participate. And, she said, when the group asks for rules at the beginning of the meeting, they know they are already on the sidelines. That`s not true! So we can ask groups to recast their own agreements from scratch, at a crucial time when we will spend a lot of time together. There are many factors (creating authentic relationships is of course the key), but what I want to focus on in this short article is the creation of group agreements. These agreements were concluded by Ferananda Ibarra, Chris Corrigan, Krisztina Kun, Trilby Smith, Katy Golinsky, Gray Miller Creative, Ankit Chhabra, Wolf, Nadja Petranovskaya, Brandy Agerbeck, Natalie Ord, Monica Brasov-Curca, Christine Martell, Jill Banting, Rachel Marcuse, Ken Lima-Coelho, Mark Busse, Julie Gieseke Whatever tools we use, we want to make agreements where people learn in such an open way. You can add others, z.B. no phones during the group or no rumbling, depending on our context. Just think about coming up with a casual phrase of ideas and getting to a few with the kids in the group.
Recently, I have gone beyond the agreements of the community. When is it better to propose principles to the group and when is it better for a group to create its own? For my graphic training workshops, I could start the piece with a poster like the one in the image above, and ask the group if they have any edited or additions. Putting the face sound in space works well – but only in conflict situations where conflict is low. For years, I have always asked groups to write them together, but in brief meetings or focus groups, if time is very valuable or if the group does not meet for a conversation with a high commitment, it may seem trite to ask the group to participate in these container building activities. 4. Passport law – supports people who do not want to talk in a group without asking them to explain themselves.